Adopter’s Experiences

Hear about our Adopter’s experiences

No one can explain the adoption process better than those who have experienced it first hand. Below are some real life stories from our adopters.

Charlie* speaks about the journey of adoption with Faith in Families and the support received for their new family

I am a trans non binary gay person who is married to a wonderful woman. When we decided to adopt we researched local agencies and settled on Faith in Families. We chose them because they were the ones who seemed most passionate about adoption and providing lifelong support for adopters and adoptees alike.

The training we received was amazing, we still say to this day that we could not have been more prepared for what we were about to take on. Training never stops with the approval process either, as they offer refreshers as well as new training sessions through the year, every year.

Our children came home and things weren’t easy but Faith in Families were there for us as soon as we needed them. Not once have they let us down, even when we’ve had questions out of hours.

Even as things got easier and we all got used to being a family of four, Faith in Families are still there to support us. We love the REACH groups where our children go to spend time with other children who have been adopted and the regular parties that the agency hold give us all a chance to catch up with other adoptive families.

Becoming parents has changed our lives more so than we ever thought possible, and we could not have made it this far without the help and support of Faith in Families.

*Names have been changed to protect identities

Jessica and Natalie* tell their story about how they created their family.

When we first discussed adoption, it wasn’t even legal for us to adopt as a couple. That was 12 years ago now and things have changed dramatically!

We started seriously looking into adoption in 2014 and decided to attend some information evenings hosted by a few voluntary agencies and our local authority. Adopt Together at Faith in Families were the first agency we visited and we were blown away.

We were initially concerned about them having their roots in the Catholic religion, given the church’s history with the LGBT community being difficult, but we needn’t have worried. We were treated exactly the same as everyone else and asked regularly if there was any more that we felt that they could do for us.

They have worked with us every single step of the way. We started the process in spring 2014 and within a year we were approved to adopt and bringing our children home.

When our children came home, things weren’t necessarily smooth but the quality of the training we received helped us to feel confident in our ability to parent them. When things got really hard, they stood up and fought for us so get our family the support and help that we needed. Faith in Families are always there for us and that support is unwavering.

They care about us, our children and our family. We are their focus; they are there to support us. Not just now but forever and we could not thank them enough for it.

There are still over 3,000 children waiting for loving homes. If you feel that you could adopt or would like to find out more, contact Faith in Families on 0115 9558811 or email

*Names have been changed to protect identities

Adopter's experiences. Two young children playing with a cat in the garden.

We received this wonderful story from Lynne and Darren* who adopted their son through Faith in Families. They have kindly shared their experiences with us, but we have changed the names of those involved and some of the details in order to protect their privacy. This is written from Lynne’s perspective:

After several miscarriages, I couldn’t face trying again. I had always been interested in adoption but my husband had been less keen. When we arrived at Faith in Families’ First Thursday open evening in January, I didn’t know what to expect, but I was apprehensive. My husband can be shy and would feel awkward in a situation like this.

We needn’t have worried. I’ve rarely felt so welcomed. Each member of staff made sure they came and said hello. They were warm but also sensitive to how we might be feeling. This has continued throughout the process, from phone calls to letters. Every attempt has been made to make the process less overwhelming. Within months, we were approved adopters and a few months later we met our wonderful boy.

The matching process was challenging and very emotional. At the time, many of the children waiting to be adopted had additional needs and most adopters, including ourselves, decided that their needs were just too great. However, I felt constantly drawn back to these children who seemed to be waiting endlessly for forever homes.

We attended several events without success when our social worker suggested we go to an activity day for children with additional needs, as meeting these children would give us a better idea of the practicalities and see beyond their often overwhelming profiles that can deter you from finding out more.

Within minutes of arriving at the Adoption Activity Day, we had completely fallen in love with the boy who was to become our son. Yes, we had to make sure we could manage his needs and find out a lot more, but meeting and playing with him in person made it easier to imagine him in our lives.

We met with the health professionals involved in our boy’s life. This was vital to help us make a considered decision. Every effort was made to ensure we knew as much as we could about our son’s health needs. It was very important to Faith in Families that we weren’t rushing into anything blindly.

There were additional meetings to ensure we weren’t making the decision without thinking it through, but also lots of support. From pairing us with adoption buddies, who already had adopted children with additional needs, to support groups and websites. Faith in Families advocated for financial help for us and insisted that the health professionals involved started work on the transfers.

Since our boy has been placed with us, the support has felt like a steady stream. When we have asked for support for the smallest thing, Faith in Families have made it their mission to provide the advice or point us in the right direction.

We have our family and every moment is exhausting, wonderful, crazy and precious.

*Names have been changed to protect identities

Every First Thursday of the month we have an adoption information evening where we invite an adoptive parent or parents to come and talk about their experiences. It really is recommended you come along to one of these as you’ll be able to talk to the adopters directly as well as find out about the process.

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Adoptive parents’ blogs

Here are a few blogs from parents who have been through the process and have adopted children. They did not adopt through Faith in Families and do not represent the Agency, however give an honest account of their own journey and experiences.

First4Adoption – a mix of adopter stories

Suddenly Mummy – Single adoptive mum to two

Dadoptive – Adoptive dad to one child

Al Coates – Adoptive father to six

The Bear facts – Adoptive mum with one birth son and one adopted son

Unlikely Dad – Gay adoptive dad to one

Nibbles and bubbles – Adoptive mum to two

Full time tired – Adoptive mum to one plus weekly roundup of various adoption blogs

The Gay Adopter – Gay adoptive dad of two

Hannah Meadows – Adoptive mum to two, plus resources